Will you walk through the fire?

In my new free Soulpreneur Money Quiz  I talk about some of the money leaks that first show up as relationship leaks. I have seen and even experienced some of these surreal ways people sabotage their business. See if you can relate with any of these: Not building their business because you are afraid that if you actually “make it” then you won’t have any reason to stay in your marriage. Not charging for your value because then you’ll make more money than their parents and you feel bad for that. (I thought that if I made more money than my parents I would appear ungrateful to my parents and their lifetime of hard work.) If you make more money then you won’t have things in common with your “broke” friends who like to talk about their money problems. Telling yourself that you will speak, hold your own event, or get new headshots, etc. after you lose weight. Or after you are “ready.” Or after your new website is up. Did I push any buttons with those examples? Will you really walk through the fire?  I’m at Darla LeDoux’s Align It Live in Las Vegas and something she said really hit me: When one door closes, another door opens. But the hallways are a b!tc#. Not only at this event, but in the past six months especially, I’m meeting all of these fellow SOULpreneurs who have been in the hallway sometime in the past 18 months. Some of them are currently there and it’s really good news. Here’s why: The hallway is where you birth the next version of you and your...
I bought into this illusion. I’m over it.

I bought into this illusion. I’m over it.

In 2009 I was really tired of being broke. Done. Finished. OVER IT. I hired a mentor and it was exactly what I needed. It got me into action and I went from zero and built a 6-figure business in less than a year. But I struggled for two years before that – most months not even making ends meet. So can I really say I built a 6-figure business in a year? Truthfully, every life experience prepared me for my drastic income growth in 2011 – it was a lifetime of experience to get there….the six years to get a Bachelors. Going to high school and being the art nerd and cutting a LOT of classes… Yet here I am creating and living a life that some days feels like a dream better than I ever imagined was possible. Before this bliss that I live now, I bought into the illusion. I bought into the illusion that having 200 people at my live events meant something about my value. I bought into the hype that having “big names” in my telesummits meant something. It was cool. It was fun. I learned a lot. And I wouldn’t trade any of it or redo it another way. But guess what? It’s all bullshit. Seriously. I’m calling it. Here is what I’ve learned over the years: Some people are who they are on and off stage. But not everyone. Some people are more comfortable regurgitating other people’s content because they don’t have their own voice. Some people even do some pretty dodgy things in business. And if that is what you...
Your first website should cost less than $500 – what???

Your first website should cost less than $500 – what???

Disclaimer: This topic may upset some graphic designers. This may also upset the fabulous folks who have spent thousands of dollars on building a website and it’s not what they need. Here is how most entrepreneurs start in their business: You have the idea for your business. You want to have a website and even though you don’t technically NEED a website to be in business, it’s generally a good idea. So you talk to graphic designers and you start the process. The designer tells you need certain things and you follow their guidance. Thousands of dollars and sometimes months later, you have a website. At that point you ask yourself: “When will my website make me money?” Here is what most people tell me after they spend thousands of dollars on a website: “My website is okay, but I don’t really love it.” A client told me this today; she spent $3,000+ on her site. “I’m not getting any clients from my website and I needed clients yesterday.” “I love my site, but I can’t go in and change anything so now I’m stuck again.” “Now I have to hire someone to update my site because it’s so complicated.” Your first website should cost you less than $500. You don’t need a fancy logo, or branding or a custom website when you start. What? But this goes against what a lot of experts are telling you right? So let me share with you EXACTLY how to do that so you stop wasting money and have an online presence that actually builds your business instead of having “website embarrassment.”...
You are the Leader in Your Lineage

You are the Leader in Your Lineage

It’s not too late. Now is the time and you are perfectly supported, even in ways that may not look and feel like the support you intended. What needs to fall away that you are not letting fall away? You want to hang on because you want to make sure the person knows you won’t abandon them? Or is it a belief, a pattern, a habit, an addition that you need to let go of? We think of addiction as a substance, but many people are addicted to misery and struggle. It’s what they know. What is your addiction? Is it thinking that you need to save someone or protect them? You are the leader in your lineage to break that generational pattern of misery and struggle, sometimes that tone (of misery and struggle) is covered up by upbeat optimism and only the select few see the shadow. You are here to shine the light on that shadow. And shine brightly. Have you been really shining as brightly as you would...
How to Authentically Attract Clients and JVs (even with a tiny list)

How to Authentically Attract Clients and JVs (even with a tiny list)

How to ask people to promote you even if you don’t have a big list to promote them? How do you attract joint venture partners and CLIENTS with a tiny list? How do you attract big names to share your message? First, this doesn’t happen overnight. The vision for your life and business didn’t happen overnight. Your business won’t succeed overnight either. Your vision has been pieced together through years of experiences, yep even challenges, and something clicked for you to say “No more… I’m not living someone else’s vision anymore, it’s time to live my own!” And then your business idea was born. It continues to shift and unfold doesn’t it? That moment your business vision is born is the moment where most new entrepreneurs make their first big mistake: they look around and see what other folks are doing and think to themselves “Yeah, I can do that…that looks so glamorous.” And they start their business in comparison. A reminder: comparison is the root of all pain and it robs all joy. Tip #1: Realize that this doesn’t happen overnight and you have to start where you are, which is ONE person at a time. I remember seeing Lisa Nichols on stage for the first time. I was astounded with how damn amazing she was. My soul was moved. After working with her for a couple of years I saw the behind-the-scenes activity and action. I saw the hard work. I saw who she was on and off stage and it was remarkable; she was the real deal. She was molded into that person her WHOLE LIFE....
Are you open to Feedback?

Are you open to Feedback?

Are you really open to feedback? This blog post was inspired because I triggered a few clients this week and I’ve also been the client on the receiving end of feedback. (P.S. The video above is raw – in other words it looks like I literally rolled out of bed and recorded a video. I didn’t realize I was having a bad hair day until the video was done. lol Just keepin’ it real!) What to do when your coach pisses you off, triggers you or hurts your feelings? I’ve noticed some patterns in my own life and business and seeing that feedback right in my face for me to look at I noticed I had one of two reactions: 1. Defensiveness 2. Hmmm, how I can transform this? I also thought about some recent experiences with one of my coaches who so powerfully embodied truth and honesty from a loving place that at first really pissed me off, then it transformed me into being a better coach. She gave me feedback and held boundaries with me that at first pissed me off, and then (thank goodness) I saw the lesson and used it to transform. Do you really take feedback? Are you really coachable? Or when you get your feelings hurt, do you shut down? With any experience we take time to process and then move forward. I’m noticing that in this coaching industry, there are some folks who would rather tell you what you want to hear than be honest. Telling people what they want to hear is a great way to accept people’s money because let’s...

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