I was addicted to struggle – here is my new normal

I was addicted to struggle – here is my new normal

At the end of 2014, I asked for two things: 1. A tool that could help my clients and I move through blocks at lightning speed that actually worked. I was sick of taking months and years to change patterns and results. 2. More magic. I chose MAGIC as my word for 2015. I knew there was power within me that wasn’t being used and I got really curious about what else was possible. *And both of them happened when I reached out to my friend Cory Michelle.* You see, she was living in such a way that inspired me. She had something I didn’t. I was done with the struggle and working my @$$ off as a way to hopefully, someday get ahead only to keep falling short. I had the desire for ease, joy and creating MORE without sacrifice, hustle and working so hard for it that I didn’t enjoy it. I had already attempted to create that way and I was done. In January of this year I attended a 5-day training that changed my life. Now I have done a LOT of personal development work on myself. I have spent tens of thousands of dollars trying to learn the “secrets” to success. Some of the things would make a difference but with a lot of hard work. I’m totally willing to work hard, but struggle? I was done with it. But I didn’t know how to create my life and business any other way. After all, I had invested $200,000 in five years only to be told that I needed to work even harder. I’m...
{Soulpreneur Sunday} Empath: is it a curse or a gift

{Soulpreneur Sunday} Empath: is it a curse or a gift

I’m an empath. I didn’t know what this was until around the year 2005 when I attended a Hay House workshop and heard Dr. Judy Orloff go through a list of “symptoms” of empaths. I said yes to every single one. Everything from struggling with depression, to weight gain, to having my mind swirl with what seemed like everyone else’s thoughts and feelings. I was so grateful for that insight because for the first time I didn’t feel crazy. I had no idea that most of the thoughts and feelings I was carrying around within me, were other people’s. I didn’t know this was an intuitive gift, let alone how to use it in a powerful way. But I wasn’t taught what to do with the gift. I had it. I could feel it. And I kept taking on people’s energy, emotions and thoughts thinking that was the compassionate thing to do to try to help others. At times I felt so full of stuff that wasn’t mine, especially the challenging stuff, that I was suffocating. And I thought it was all mine. I thought I was messed up, I was broken and I was so overwhelmed that I just stayed stuck. What do I do with all of this? How do I choose joy when so many people are suffering? I thought that in order to be a compassionate and kind person, I had to run this energy I was feeling through my body and energy field as a way to try to heal it. In some spiritual circles, I was even told to take on the suffering...
{Soulpreneur Sunday} Are you the expert or the student?

{Soulpreneur Sunday} Are you the expert or the student?

I’ve invested in several business masterminds. Some have been $25,000+ to participate so imagine my surprise when often times it wasn’t a master of the minds, but rather a facilitator teaching and the members not contributing to each other. Sometimes I noticed the facilitator would feel threatened if a participant actually knew more than they did. Other times, it was an ego trip for the facilitator. Other times, the participants didn’t feel that their contribution really mattered because they weren’t the expert yet. Oy. And sometimes, I lucked out and connected with some amazing coaches and other participants that grew into long-term friendships and reciprocal support. I just got home from a 2 1/2 day mastermind with colleagues. It was epic. Life changing. A huge uplevel. Why was this one so different than others? There were several components that made this the one that felt the most supportive and where I got the most out of. The biggest reason this was so huge is in the video below: Here are a few more tips to leverage your mastermind and uplevel big time: 1. Give reciprocal support that is authentic. If you are only reaching out to your mastermind when you need something, it gets old really fast. Give AND receive. Don’t be a taker. This doesn’t mean promoting and supporting everyone in your mastermind just because you are in a mastermind together. Authentically give support where you can. Ask for what you need and desire. People won’t offer just because you did. it’s not that they are unkind or unconscious, they are running a business and having a life....
{Soulpreneur Sunday} Breakthroughs Without a Breakdown

{Soulpreneur Sunday} Breakthroughs Without a Breakdown

What could be possible if we stopped glorifying “the breakdown before the breakthrough?” Maybe you can relate with a cycle I used to get stuck in about how strong I was to endure struggle as a way to prove I was worthy for the reward at the end of the struggle. What if we just chose the breakthrough instead of putting ourselves through the heaviness of long, drawn-out breakdowns (or short breakdowns) as a way to be worthy or deserve the success we desire? Can we simply choose the uplevel and breakthrough instead of working our @$$es of and getting stuck first? Let’s find out.  ...

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