{Soulpreneur Sunday} Being told what to do is easier than being coachable.

{Soulpreneur Sunday} Being told what to do is easier than being coachable.

I heard the same thing again…it was probably the fifth time in a row after talking with someone in a strategy session in the past few weeks. “Why do you want a coach,” I ask. The reply sounded something like this: “I need accountability.” Or “I want someone to hold me accountable.” The same words I have said in the past and totally meant it too. The problem is no one can “hold you accountable.” They can guide you, they can assist you, they can even give you the loving butt-kick. But YOU are the only one you can be accountable to and for. If you want someone to hold you accountable, essentially you are asking someone to work harder in your business than you are. <gasp> #truthbomb Accountability can be a tricky thing. At the end of the day, there is only one person looking back at your reflection in the mirror. When you do things for you, then you are going to have sustainable results. When you do something because you don’t want to “get in trouble” by your coach, that is not a coaching relationship. That is a boss/employee relationship and you didn’t start your business to become an employee did you? Another popular response I get when I ask the question “why do you want a coach” is something like “I just need someone to tell me what to do and I’ll do it.” That’s what we are told is being coachable and so we tell ourselves that’s what we should want and do. But the thing is, when has it ever worked out for...
Why I banned New Years Resolutions + How I Create Instead

Why I banned New Years Resolutions + How I Create Instead

While 2016 is around the corner, it doesn’t mean that it has to be this big reset that we make it out to be. I find that putting so much pressure on changing your life, your business, your bank account, your body, your family… at the stroke of midnight on December 31st doesn’t actually create the desired outcome that we are seeking. What if you scrapped New Years Resolutions completely and never looked back? I stopped setting New Years Resolutions a few years ago and I’ve never felt so free. I’ve also created things in much easier ways than I used to. Coincidence? I don’t think so. While this can be a great time of year to consider where you want to uplevel, what if there is nothing wrong with 2015 or anything that you have created to this point? What if creating your future can be wayyyyy easier than what you’ve been taught, or even what part of you believes is possible? For this holiday season (and every day actually) here is my one wish for you: ==> Live YOUR truth. Be true to you. Live each day with your vision in the forefront. Remember that every moment you have the choice to get into deeper alignment with your gorgeous truth. And that is where change occurs: moment to moment. The truth won’t set you free. YOUR truth sets you free. Ponder the things that would make you feel free? Like really free… that space where things just flow and where magic is your every-day experience. Mmmmm…yeah. Breathe that in. Creating your future that’s in alignment with YOUR...

{Soulpreneur Sunday} How to Get Through a Slump

Have you signed up for a program and about halfway into the program and you hit a slump? You wonder if this is going to work. You’re tired. And you may even be tired of being accountable. I’ve been running 12-month masterminds since 2009 and I’ve been part of 12-month masterminds throughout that time as well and I notice this happens in every group. When I have asked colleagues and my mentors about it, it happens there too. What is it? Slump time. When you were really excited and then life hits. Or you get tired. Or you had your hopes up and something didn’t quite work out. Or you realize those old patterns that have sabotaged you in the past show up again just as you decide to really go for it. It’s common for your energy to pull back and the after-glow of upleveling wears off. Not only does it happen about 4-6 months into a 12-month program, a couple of things often happen: 1. People wonder if they have what it takes 2. The resistance of change gets bigger 3. Excuses from the past can come alive (things you thought you were done with) 4. You may even want to quit (the program, your business, working so hard, worrying, something) 5. You may even create a legitimate distraction or drama to stop you from showing up, that way it’s easier to “quit.” Are any of these things showing up for you? Where are you uncomfortable? What distractions are showing up that take you out of creating your life? It’s always interesting to see what happens in...
{Soulpreneur Sunday} 9 things that will stop you from creating.

{Soulpreneur Sunday} 9 things that will stop you from creating.

Where am I hiding? That’s the question I ask myself frequently when I can see myself getting in my own way. It’s also a common question I ask my clients when they stop creating and step into the world of tolerating. Are you creating or tolerating? I do the same thing. I tell myself that it’s okay if I don’t get exactly what I desire because after all, I have a great life. What’s so bad about what’s currently happening in my life? I get complacent. I tolerate things. I stop creating. Then I wake up to how boring and painful that is and UP my game. Usually there is a layer of blame in there somewhere when we stop creating. Creating confusion is a really convenient way to avoid accountability. When it’s just too big, too scary…somewhere in the process of manifesting, we stop trusting ourselves. So BAM, we unconsciously create confusion. It’s a convenient way to blame something else for not creating. Where do you hide out from creating your life and business? From creating the money you really desire to be making? To be in the type of relationships that really feel good? We are light-filled beings with big missions and vision and so of course we are always going to look at how to create MORE. It’s just who we are. We can’t help it. So when we think “who do I think I am for having big dreams?” Or if someone else asks us who we think we are, well HELLO – it’s in your divine nature to desire more so pretending that you...
{Soulpreneur Sunday} How to Trust Yourself After Investing a Lot of $

{Soulpreneur Sunday} How to Trust Yourself After Investing a Lot of $

“This program is $50,000 for the year.” That is when I stopped breathing for a moment. It was the first time I had a strategy session with a business coach. It was the first time someone invited me to invest more money than I had ever even spent on a car. I had hit rock bottom and I knew something had to change. I was broke. I was wondering if I was broken and I knew that line of thinking wasn’t going to get me anywhere. I had done it “my way” for long enough and it wasn’t working. So there I was in 2009… talking to this business coach and she told me about her $50,000 a year program. I was making ZERO in my business. I had no credit. I had already drained my small IRA accounts. There wasn’t a savings account – no sugar daddy – no trust fund – no one to borrow money from. And there I was considering how I could make the investment. Maybe we could be a one-car household. Maybe we could sell our house and downsize… The program I did end up signing up for was around $860 a month plus the costs of travel to go to a live 3-day retreat twice a year. That’s about $10,000 for the year. I asked if I could sign the contract and have a week to come up with the deposit. And that’s exactly what I did. I sold things. I sold jewelry and things to consignment stores. I figured it out. And I figured it out the next month and the...

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