Talking yourself into loving it
I was talking myself into loving it… “It’s better than what I have now.” “I can make it work.” “I really love these parts of it…” This was my conversation 48 hours ago as my husband and I were making a decision about making an offer on a house we saw. Then came the, “maybe we’ll just stay where we are. Maybe it’s better to just do some upgrades to this house…” Today this sign went up in our yard. $hit just got real. It’s happening. We’re moving. And we don’t have a place to go… yet. Welcome to “The GAP.” The place in between what you SAY you’re letting go of and what you SAY you desire. But that thing you desire hasn’t shown up yet. The GAP is also the place where possibilities go to die from causes like, “being responsible,” “being realistic,” and “being practical.” Been there. Done that. And it’s friggin’ boring isn’t’ it? Before we get to what to do in the GAP, let’s start with that thing you really desire. If you’ve had something you’ve desired to create for a while now, what is it? What’s really stopping you? For me, I’ve talked about the desire to move for over five years now. FIVE YEARS. I made up a bunch of stories in my head: It’s too hard to qualify for a mortgage on self-employment income. I can’t yet afford the house I really desire. My husband doesn’t want to leave Utah. As long as I travel, I can stay put and be happy. Blah, blah… when I can’t stand to hear myself...
Business Alchemy 41: What’s the difference between coaching, consulting, and implementing? with guest Syndee Hendricks
In this interview, Syndee Hendricks, talks about true leadership and how to find the right support for you. Is it possible to be over-coached? Syndee talks about the dangers of over-buying and some helpful tips on implementing as well.
The Holy Grail of Speaking Tips
Here is the mother of speaking tips for those folks who want to do more speaking, either on stage at events or on radio shows/podcasts. Speaking Tip #1. Have your bio, photo, talk titles, talk summaries, and CTA ready. Don’t wait until you get the opportunity to create all of that stuff. The universe has a fun way of showing up for you when you have this stuff ready to rock ‘n roll! When you get invited to be a guest, respond and book your spot sooner than later. If you take weeks to book for whatever reason, show hosts may take that as you’re not interested. With so many people looking for speaking gigs, personally, I will move on to other invites and you may miss your shot of being on my show (or at my live events). Put your topic(s) (talk titles) and bullet points (talk summary) of, along with your most recent bio, a link to your headshot, and links for all of your social media platforms in one Google Doc so you and your team can easily find it from anywhere. *If the topic requires customization, then I’ll provide the updated topic and key takeaways and my team can do the rest with ease. Speaking Tip #2. Be real! On my podcast, I tell people that this is NOT your signature talk with a pitch. This is a real conversation. I’ve turned people away who give me the scripted questions they want me to ask, which ultimately means the same talk after talk everywhere they are. And personally, I don’t want to hear your highlight...
The Lie of Gratitude + An Invitation for More
Just be grateful for what you have. Be sure to be humble. Why do you need 4,000 square feet for two people? Get a responsible job, starting a business right now is too risky. Have you heard any of these things or things like it? These are all things that have been said to me in one form or another as I grew up in a very humble environment living off of church welfare as a kid… I was taught to be happy with very little. I can get by with very little. I can find joy without a lot of “earthly possessions.” “Be grateful for what you have,” was the mantra. Real gratitude is amazing – it changes everything. BUT, and there’s a big but here – when “gratitude” is used to dilute your desires or to tell you that what you desire isn’t possible or that you shouldn’t “want for more,” that’s not actual gratitude. That’s the lie. As you read this so far, how does your body feel? Heavy? Or light? Maybe you relate? Maybe this is a foreign energy to you. Are you uncomfortable? Are you nodding your head in agreement? Are you getting ready to reply back and tell me how full of crap I am? Interesting stuff can come up about this, right? Asking for MORE and being willing to have it isn’t something that most of us are taught. But what if you could ask for ANYTHING and trust that it will show up? Are you willing to receive it? To have it? And to ask, receive, and have without justifying how...
Business Alchemy 40: with guest Jennifer Covington
What happens when you end your career in marketing and join the Peace Corps for three years? In Jennifer’s case, she got a glimpse of what it REALLY means to empower business owners to create a sustainable business.