Are live events all slimy? The Intro

Are live events all slimy? The Intro

What inspired this article series: Leonie Dawson, a woman I’ve authentically admired for years, posted a fantastic and brutally honest blog about attending a 1-day Gary Vaynerchuk event that you can read here. A friend of mine shared her blog on Faceboook and I commented: It’s why I started teaching how to do events differently. This is not just Gary but I can name dozens of events I’ve been to like this. I started hosting my events with more of a sales focus as this was ALL I saw where people actually made money. But I changed things. You can make great money by hosting events and they don’t have to be a pitch fest! And my hope is that consumers wake up and powerfully choose what’s aligned for them. No one forces anyone to use their credit card and it can feel that people have “no choice” and have buyer’s remorse. But we’ve got to speak up and choose what works for us! It’s the second paragraph that I want to emphasize here. Is anyone truly forced to buy something? While it’s great to educate people that events like what Leonie describes actually happen, I feel that it’s important to empower people to exercise their intuition and to learn how to say no. This goes far beyond being slimed or “forced” into buying something. No one is forced. Convinced? Yes. Coerced? Yes. Shamed? Yes. Persuaded? Yes. But actually forced, as in someone MADE them pull out their credit card? No. It can sure feel forced though, can’t it? Am I preaching to the choir? I think sharing experiences like Leonie...
What kind of Asker are You?

What kind of Asker are You?

Ask and receive. You’ve likely heard this before, right? When I used to hear that, I rejected it. It couldn’t be that easy, right? So I didn’t ask for stuff. I was taught to be grateful for what I had and I could be happy with very little. I saw my parents work really hard and heard a lot of “someday… if/when we get a lot of money…” and we would dream about what we would do IF… Then I learned how to work really hard to create things I desired… I stayed at jobs that I hated. I even worked for a boss who was verbally abusive to everyone around him. His temper tantrums included pounding his fists on the conference room table when he got mad, which was all the time. My thinking was, “But I’m making $60,000 a year and I can’t make that anywhere else.” I worked 60+ hours a week at most of my jobs. I went to the gym five days a week and ate tuna out of the can (super gross) to force my body to change. There was a lot of force involved and I made stuff happen, yet I always felt like I was behind – I never quite got ahead and it was never enough. In 2014, I declared joy in my life. I didn’t know how I was going to get it but I kept “putting it out to the universe” to show me something different. I had questions like this go through my head hundreds of times, “What if I learned abundance through abundance?” “Can I learn...
The GAP: where dreams die or come alive (part 2)

The GAP: where dreams die or come alive (part 2)

There is a theme happening right now… it’s kinda like when you want to buy a red car and then you notice that EVERYONE has a red car… The theme is people are stepping into the GAP. (Not the clothing store as my funny and smart @$$ friend Heidi says.) The GAP is the place between letting go of what no longer works and stepping into what is coming – BUT what’s coming hasn’t shown up quite yet. I talk about the gap in part 1 of this article series here because the first step is to get clear on what you desire. “The GAP (can be) the place where possibilities go to die from causes like, ‘being responsible,’ ‘being realistic,’ and ‘being practical.’” The Gap is also the place where infinite possibilities come alive. My friend Lori reminded me of this recently. If you truly desire change, there is no going back to the old life. You can SORT OF go back to the old life but it will likely be more painful. Why? Because you know what you desire and you consciously told yourself you couldn’t have it. I’m seeing more and more people consciously enter into the GAP without having the universe smack them around before they’ll finally listen to their deepest desires. (We don’t need to hit rock bottom or have a total breakdown to wake up to a new possibility.) How we go into the GAP doesn’t necessarily matter (in my opinion). It’s what we do after we enter that matters. The old me: I would desire something to be different. I would let...
Talking yourself into loving it

Talking yourself into loving it

I was talking myself into loving it… “It’s better than what I have now.” “I can make it work.” “I really love these parts of it…” This was my conversation 48 hours ago as my husband and I were making a decision about making an offer on a house we saw. Then came the, “maybe we’ll just stay where we are. Maybe it’s better to just do some upgrades to this house…” Today this sign went up in our yard. $hit just got real. It’s happening. We’re moving. And we don’t have a place to go… yet. Welcome to “The GAP.” The place in between what you SAY you’re letting go of and what you SAY you desire. But that thing you desire hasn’t shown up yet. The GAP is also the place where possibilities go to die from causes like, “being responsible,” “being realistic,” and “being practical.” Been there. Done that. And it’s friggin’ boring isn’t’ it? Before we get to what to do in the GAP, let’s start with that thing you really desire. If you’ve had something you’ve desired to create for a while now, what is it? What’s really stopping you? For me, I’ve talked about the desire to move for over five years now. FIVE YEARS. I made up a bunch of stories in my head: It’s too hard to qualify for a mortgage on self-employment income. I can’t yet afford the house I really desire. My husband doesn’t want to leave Utah. As long as I travel, I can stay put and be happy. Blah, blah… when I can’t stand to hear myself...

Six Coaching Myths + 15 things I Know for Sure

(You can listen to this below too) I’ve been in business for almost ten years and I’ve seen a lot and learned a lot in this industry. The first time I seriously considered getting out of the coaching biz was in 2012 when I burned my business down. (That’s another story for another day.) I was disheartened by what I was seeing as the “norm,” particularly in the live event space. It was a wake-up call for me to assess what I wanted to create in my business, with my clients, and in the world. These were just some of the questions I had from the models I saw: Was there another way to make money that wasn’t based on ‘overcoming objections’ and convincing people to buy stuff? Could people make 5- and 6-figure paydays from their live events without the fear-based selling? Could I create a leveraged business model that still had a high-touch component with my clients? Was the only way to grow my business to get a fancy brick and mortar office and hire full-time staff? Did I have to post the lifestyle shots on social media that showed everyone how great my life was? After considering these questions and finding a path that resonated much better with me, I’ve come a long way and I’ve seen a lot in this industry. There are a few coaching myths that I just don’t buy into. I’d love to hear your thoughts below on this post or in my Facebook group. Myth #1: Charge what you’re worth. You are an infinite being, how can you possibly charge what...
Doors are Open for Magic

Doors are Open for Magic

Happy New Year! Today, I’m sharing my favorite two questions to ask when I’m creating something in my business and an invitation to join me in more magic in your business. This New Years was no different than what my hubby and I have done for the last decade (by choice). My hubby and I hosted a New Year’s party and at the stroke of midnight, we sang happy birthday for my hubby! (He’s a Jan 1 baby.) Then the next day we had lunch where we asked each other two questions I always ask people on their birthday: What were your favorite things about the past year? What are you most looking forward to in the upcoming year? This isn’t about resolutions, it’s about acknowledging what we’ve created so we can create an even more expanded future than we’ve thought possible. As we both shared our favorite things and what we’re creating this year, I was overcome with gratitude that we have created the relationship where we can do this with each other. This year, one of our targets is to bring him home from his job. Why do we do this process every year with each other? What we acknowledge we can change. What we judge, stays solid and cannot change. If you’re looking at your 2017 and hoping for things to be different, start with acknowledging what occurred and what is occurring, then share your gratitude for it. Then CHOOSE what you’d like to change. After decades of doing just about every ritual you can think of to “manifest” abundance (aka money but I never called...

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