What kind of Asker are You?

What kind of Asker are You?

Ask and receive. You’ve likely heard this before, right? When I used to hear that, I rejected it. It couldn’t be that easy, right? So I didn’t ask for stuff. I was taught to be grateful for what I had and I could be happy with very little. I saw my parents work really hard and heard a lot of “someday… if/when we get a lot of money…” and we would dream about what we would do IF… Then I learned how to work really hard to create things I desired… I stayed at jobs that I hated. I even worked for a boss who was verbally abusive to everyone around him. His temper tantrums included pounding his fists on the conference room table when he got mad, which was all the time. My thinking was, “But I’m making $60,000 a year and I can’t make that anywhere else.” I worked 60+ hours a week at most of my jobs. I went to the gym five days a week and ate tuna out of the can (super gross) to force my body to change. There was a lot of force involved and I made stuff happen, yet I always felt like I was behind – I never quite got ahead and it was never enough. In 2014, I declared joy in my life. I didn’t know how I was going to get it but I kept “putting it out to the universe” to show me something different. I had questions like this go through my head hundreds of times, “What if I learned abundance through abundance?” “Can I learn...
Talking yourself into loving it

Talking yourself into loving it

I was talking myself into loving it… “It’s better than what I have now.” “I can make it work.” “I really love these parts of it…” This was my conversation 48 hours ago as my husband and I were making a decision about making an offer on a house we saw. Then came the, “maybe we’ll just stay where we are. Maybe it’s better to just do some upgrades to this house…” Today this sign went up in our yard. $hit just got real. It’s happening. We’re moving. And we don’t have a place to go… yet. Welcome to “The GAP.” The place in between what you SAY you’re letting go of and what you SAY you desire. But that thing you desire hasn’t shown up yet. The GAP is also the place where possibilities go to die from causes like, “being responsible,” “being realistic,” and “being practical.” Been there. Done that. And it’s friggin’ boring isn’t’ it? Before we get to what to do in the GAP, let’s start with that thing you really desire. If you’ve had something you’ve desired to create for a while now, what is it? What’s really stopping you? For me, I’ve talked about the desire to move for over five years now. FIVE YEARS. I made up a bunch of stories in my head: It’s too hard to qualify for a mortgage on self-employment income. I can’t yet afford the house I really desire. My husband doesn’t want to leave Utah. As long as I travel, I can stay put and be happy. Blah, blah… when I can’t stand to hear myself...
Why we stay silent – my thoughts about the world and what we can change

Why we stay silent – my thoughts about the world and what we can change

Today, I had scheduled an email promoting my newest class about messaging. This needed to be shared first. It’s an interesting line we play with – run our businesses and market our stuff and use our voice to create a different possibility on the planet – and ideally, do both. If you’ve watched anything on Facebook in the past few days or the news, you’ve seen the events occurring in the world, particularly in Virginia this past weekend. The question that I deeply wonder about is, “Is what I’m doing and being in my life and business making an impact on humanity in the way I desire it?” ==> And if not, what can I change right away to align my life and business with the stand I choose to BE in this world? I don’t know the answers for everyone. What I DO know is this: How we treat people matters. How we treat ourselves matters.   The way we run our businesses matters. What we speak up about matters. What we stay silent about matters. I also know that people process the world’s atrocities differently. It’s ironic to me that these atrocities start with judgment that turns to violence, yet we judge people for what they do or don’t do based on what they post on social media. (Oh, she must not give a shit about what’s happening in Charlotteville because she posted about peaches and her succulent on Instagram.) But that judgment topic is for another article I will write at another time… This is about why we stay silent and what do we do to...
Is this the change I’ve been asking for?

Is this the change I’ve been asking for?

Have you had the moment when your glorious business or marketing plan either bores you to tears or is just doesn’t work? The thing that you are trying to get to work is what you’ve done before in your business. You KNOW how to do this… yet, something is off. Perhaps it’s trying to follow one of the proven formulas by the experts and it just falls flat. Or you just can’t muster up the focus and motivation to follow through with it. Either way, it’s frustrating right? Especially when you need to make some money, honey! I’ve been in a space similar to this since March. Something has just been ever-so-slightly “off” and I couldn’t put my finger on it. I kept asking what to DO and kept getting the answer of “create more space.” “Let go of anything that doesn’t you utter joy. Stop the DOing and things will show up – but there has to be space for it to show up.” When this type of thing would happen years ago, my coaches at the time would tell me to be “coachable and push through the fear.” (Um, it wasn’t fear, it was a misalignment and you can only FORCE misalignment for so long before it bites you in the ass.) The result when you force it is often dismal profits, disappointment, and usually burned out adrenals to go along with it (for me anyway). NOW, I honor these times as the invitation to pause and take a breath. My favorite question to ask during these times of transitioning my business model is, “Is this the change I’ve been asking for?” When you...
Unity. Kindness. THIS is who we are.

Unity. Kindness. THIS is who we are.

(Scroll to the bottom to listen to this episode.) Unity. Kindness. THIS is who we are. Today marked the inauguration of the new US President. Exhale fear. Return it to sender with consciousness attached. Expand your energy…bigger. bigger. Expand. Remember that fear (and narcissists) will do everything possible to convince you that you are helpless and broken. Here’s the truth: you have the ability and power to create. WE the people create change. We stand for unity. We stand for kindness. We stand for equality. THIS is who we are. What else is possible? The country and the world have entered into a chapter of doing shadow work. If you’ve done shadow work before, you know that this sh*t is not for the faint of heart. As a nation and a world, we are being called to look deeply within. We are now looking at the things we have pretended are not there. We are feeling the effects of the undone healing. We are being forced to look at what tolerating things for decades does to our hearts and the world. While we know that structures that are in the way of creating a greater future will be stripped away and torn down to build something even better – this is how life works. Breaking down the old paradigms is f*cking uncomfortable. It can be hard. Perhaps this is what’s happening now and it’s in the package that we want to refuse, avoid, and blame. But we do it anyway. We stand back up. We embrace one another. We love the parts of ourselves and our communities that feel scared and...
New Year’s Message: Choosing Me

New Year’s Message: Choosing Me

An accompanying video is at the very bottom of this post. >> You can listen to this blog post here or scroll below to read: I don’t have “a word” for 2017. This was really bothering me until a day ago. Would I be missing out on something if I didn’t find the perfect word? Ah, the pressure. 😉 The truth is, while 2016 was an excellent year for me. I played safe. I needed to play safe. I slowed down. I played, a lot. I rested. I healed my body. My words for 2016 were Leap, Receive, and Trust. A trifecta of sorts, which were all very present for me. (I had to do some digging to remember what my words were for the year. But looking at my year, those words were very much a part of my year.)  I decided that this year is a theme, it’s “choose me.” I’ve been in the space of asking where am I tolerating things vs creating the reality I desire to be living. It’s been a tender few days. It keeps coming back to “choose me.” Everything I desire comes from choosing me: the expansion in my business and wealth, the adventures I desire, the places in the world I wish to experience. The relationships I choose to deepen. It all comes from choosing me. What would my life and business look like a year from now if I radically chose me? This is a new concept and the first time I heard about it, it triggered the thought “well that’s selfish to ‘choose me.’” I didn’t get it....

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