It was not a regular Monday night. I sat there feeling stupid. I was behind. I didn’t understand.
As the teacher was describing first, second, and third-person verb conjugation in Italian, I suddenly couldn’t remember what that even meant in English, let alone this language that went from being beautiful, to hard and frustrating.
I wanted to run. I wanted to quit. Every time I felt stupid in school came rushing back.
But I stayed. I leaned in.
I practiced the words. I attempted to roll my Rs with my braces and while I’m getting much better, it was hard!
When things get hard, do you run, or do you lean in?
I see a lot of people run away from the power that a clear message and marketing can provide to their business because they don’t know what to do.
Here’s the good news: 1) you are always closer than you think you are, and 2) with a few small adjustments, your message and marketing can make you a lot more money.
Can I assist you with putting these pieces together in an intuitive and soulful way?
My upcoming Business Alchemy workshop is happening online, or in person in Utah or Australia. It’s three hours together and we’ll get your message and marketing dialed in. It’s only $97 + I’m giving you access to The Money Club for a full year, a training hub for SOULpreneurs to change their relationship with money.
It’s not uncommon for really smart people to run, shut down, or distract themselves with busy work, instead of leaning into the discomfort that shows up when they don’t have a crystal clear message and marketing plan.
When you lean in, there is a breakthrough on the other side of the discomfort.
One of my secret goals was to learn Italian by the time I’m 40. Fluent even. Since I turn the big 4-0 next June, I got started. It was a secret because if I didn’t tell anyone, I could quit and no one would know.
This Italian class has been a stretch, but a good one because I’ve gotten comfortable.
While I’ve created awesome stuff, I’ve let myself off the hook out of fear of going down the path of burnout again. I was so afraid of pushing myself to the point of burnout again, the moment something got really really hard, I backed away. I did it in the name of grace and self-care, but I also lost some of my edge – my fire.
Are you afraid of the burnout that you retreat before even asserting yourself?
We know what it’s like to work our asses off. To push. To make things happen. And we hit the wall: The burnout. The breakdown. The health crisis. The punch-in-the-gut reminder that shows us where we stopped listening to our soul.
So the moment we get even remotely close to burnout, we put up the wall and say, “I’m not going back there again.”
And we retreat, usually quite gracefully, but stubbornly, into what feels easeful and magical – forgetting that we ARE magic and leaning in doesn’t have to mean burning out.
So the question is, when do we lean in vs push?
Pushing a boulder uphill is not what any of us signed up for in our business. But do we really trust the molecules of magic, intention, and grace to create the momentum we seek?
When did we confuse creating with magic and ease, with the energy of backing down the second things feel hard?
What are you truly committed to? Have you become comfortable with accepting less than what you know you are capable of?
I’ve been asking myself these questions too and the clarity is illuminating.
What would be possible if you leaned in just another 10%? Yes – it’s about ease, magic, and grace. There is also effort.
Here are a few things to help you to discern when to lean in and when it turns into the push that creates burnout:
- Be honest about what you desire and why? If you are working toward a dollar amount, are you really motivated by money? If you’re like me and not motivated by money, but rather experiences, write out the list of experiences you desire to have.
- Write it down. I have two lists in my phone: stuff I am creating and then the stuff I’m creating WITH my husband. We both add stuff to that list and it’s often our “pillow talk.”Pillow talk comes from Dino and Shannon Watt who encourage couples to have actual conversations before going to bed. Imagine that… 🙂
- Take a loving and honest look at here you are letting yourself off the hook. For example, I have the tendency to start out fast then the momentum dies. So I know I need to have help with keeping the energy of my launches going. (I’m in the hiring process as we speak.)
- Take action. Do something that scares you. Maybe it’s taking an Italian class or learning to play the piano. I’m also starting voice lessons this month. Part of me is absolutely terrified. And this is a good thing.