Protected: {Soulpreneur Sunday} The problem with excluding people from your niche.

Is your desire to be included actually excluding the true connection you desire? Something I’ve been wondering about for a while now, especially when it comes to business, is when is it okay to exclude people or when is that exclusionary or even racist? Yep, I’m going to go there. For a long time I focused my business on supporting women. I had all of the facts to back it up: Women make $.70 on the dollar to men. Few women crossed the 6-figure mark, let along the 7-figure mark compared to men. And on and on. Then a mentor of mine said something that really pissed me off. She said “You know why women don’t make as much as men?” “They don’t ask for it.” Hmmmm…in some cases, I think she has a point. Now before you get your panties in a twist, just think about this for a second.  Is there inequality with men and women? We have proof that there is. Is there inequality with race? We have proof that there is. As conscious or event slightly aware people in business, we also know this: What we focus on expands. How much more damage are we creating by focusing on the gap? I’m not saying stick your head in the sand, but are we focusing on an actual solution or fighting a war to prove a point of how hard the world is? My question is this: By focusing on the difference and talking about it to prove how unfair things are, are we in fact closing the gap or creating a bigger self-fulfilling prophecy? I started thinking...
When you’re just not feelin’ it – but you’ve got a biz to run.

When you’re just not feelin’ it – but you’ve got a biz to run.

You know that moment when you realize that you need to take your own coaching? That moment when you say YES to you, your life, your dream, your upleveled reality, and everything that is not in alignment with that shows up ready to ask you if you are really ready to move forward. Yeah, that moment. The “oh $hit moment.” Something crazy cool happens when you say YES to YOU. Big awareness shows up. Excitement. Woohoo. And other stuff shows up too. Resistance. Fear. Sometimes things even blow up. Is change ever really super comfortable? Why does this happen? It’s energy – the law of vibration. Example: You say yes to a $100,000 business. Everything that doesn’t align with that will show up almost as if to tap you on the shoulder and say “do you really think you can have that?” The dog throws up, the car breaks down, you get in a stupid fight with your partner… You say yes to hosting your first event after taking a year sabbatical and some fears come up that feel real and feel heavy and this is AFTER hosting over 100 live events. Wth? (this is me by the way) Crap starts happening. You look under the rug because you are finally brave enough to SEE and you don’t always like what’s underneath there. It doesn’t align with what you are moving INTO. It’s a reminder of choices you made in the past and THAT is where the good news is. The past is just that – it’s not the present. It’s usually never actually REAL. The ONLY place to...
Another Closet to Come out of + Marketing Tips for Introverts

Another Closet to Come out of + Marketing Tips for Introverts

Introvert. Extrovert. Which are you? Introverts get a bad rap. I’m going to be bold and say that most “introverts” I meet are really extroverts that are incredibly empathic and they use the “introvert” label as an excuse to play small. I know this because I’m describing myself. Before you get upset or defend your introvert label, hear me out. I’ve been silent for the past month. It takes a lot to shut me up. I’ve been coming to terms with the fact that I’m not as introverted as I thought I was. I’ve been hiding out. In my cave. Pretending to be introverted in my internal process and world. And I shut people out. I left money on the table. And I made my business a whole helluva lot harder than it needed to be this year. The truth is I love people. (I hate small talk, but I love people, especially when they are willing to have a REAL conversation.) I also need solo ME time that is totally silent. While I am an introvert on some level, I’m highly empathic. What is empathic? Imagine being a dry sponge and everywhere you go, everything you hear and everything you watch gets absorbed into your energy. So at the end of the day, you sift through a bunch of crap and most of it isn’t yours. Until you learn how to manage this energy effectively, it results in overwhelm, anxiety, depression, shutting down, feeling burdened and on and on. Introverts are people who recharge their energy better by themselves, not around other people. Extroverts recharge their energy best...
Manifesting in High Heels

Manifesting in High Heels

A couple of years ago my uncle told me something that I’ll never forget about luck. He asked me if I love what I do and with a huge grin on my face I said “Yes, I absolutely love it,” to which he replied, “you are so LUCKY because not many people can say that.” It’s not luck. It’s making decisions, taking risks and persevering the way MOST people talk about but never actually DO. (That is the formula for manifesting by the way.) So when I had an opportunity to be an author in Manifesting in (High) Heels – Secret Rituals to Achieve Success I jumped at the opportunity. Why? To collaborate with other women who were creating big things in the world and share our tools with YOU because ladies, it’s time to play a bigger game and we’ve got what it takes.But enough about me – let’s talk about you. When you get your copy today, I have some gifts for you! I want to give you something BIG when you buy your copy of Manifesting in High Heels to get your manifesting groove on. After you buy your book, simply forward me your Amazon order confirmation and you can choose from either: Option #1: Soul Vision Abundance Kit >> Learn your money type and how to enhance your strengths. Get my favorite manifesting tool: Soul Vision Journal Learn easy money tips to create financial freedom! OR Option #2: Soul Vision Marketing System    Learn the easy way to launch your products and programs Create a marketing calendar that inspires you instead of one that drains you...
Myth Busters Part 2: Live Events – hot tips for hosting and attending

Myth Busters Part 2: Live Events – hot tips for hosting and attending

You cannot imitate the kind of transformation that happens in a live environment but even so, I stopped doing my big events this year. Why? I couldn’t do the event formula any longer. I have a knack for pulling together a big vision with the right colors, content, flow and ambiance together to create a big impact. Live events in the coaching industry are getting a bad rap and for good reason. Generally, event hosts are assuming (although I believe they are unconscious about this) that you are not smart enough to make decisions without pressure, that you are desperate, or both. Live events break down into: 1-filling the room, 2-giving content/value, 3-making an offer, 4-repeat. The bigger the event, the more details you manage. Here is the coaching industry standard: Host a 2-3 day event, fill the room how ever you can, make your big offer on the afternoon of day #2, tell people the what and just part of the how so they “are more motivated to buy your big offer,” give people a show and they will be impressed. The end. Repeat every time you want to have a 6- or 7figure payday. Easy peasy right? People are seeing through this formula. You’ve been there right? You give your $97 or $197 refundable deposit. You show up and register with 100-1,000 other people who have done the same thing. And you get your refund check along with your name badge. You feel the energy, staff is wearing their branded shirts and the events signs that are strategically placed, let you know that something big is happening...

Myth Busters: Are 6-figure businesses real?

uh-oh. I’m on a soapbox…for good reason. There is this fad in the coaching world about six figures and I’ve got to talk about it. It goes something like this: “If you don’t make six figures within your first year, or possibly two, then you aren’t building your business right or fast enough.” “Once you have a six figure business, you’ve made it.” “I went from a big fat zero to $100,000 now to $350,000 and my online program will show you how too.” “I crossed $500,000 so far this year in sales.” Those are amazing accomplishments – truly spectacular, especially when you think that less than 20% of women-owned businesses right now cross the $100,000 mark. But none of that is REAL. Here is what I mean. People think of a six-figure business and they think that someone has at least $10,000+ sitting in a bank account. I’m sure some 6-figure businesses do. But a lot of ’em don’t. I had a client from a couple of years ago argue with me why she was justified in making her coaching payment late. Why? Because  I had “plenty of money” from my “six-figure business.” That is when I realized people don’t know the real numbers of a business. Revenue is different than what is in someone’s bank account. What are the real numbers behind the 6-figure business? Not many people are sharing that part of their six-figure business. The first year I had a “six-figure” business, my cash flow sucked big time. I was paying off $50k in debt, investing in a mentor, hosting events, attending events and living...

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