Talking yourself into loving it
I was talking myself into loving it… “It’s better than what I have now.” “I can make it work.” “I really love these parts of it…” This was my conversation 48 hours ago as my husband and I were making a decision about making an offer on a house we saw. Then came the, “maybe we’ll just stay where we are. Maybe it’s better to just do some upgrades to this house…” Today this sign went up in our yard. $hit just got real. It’s happening. We’re moving. And we don’t have a place to go… yet. Welcome to “The GAP.” The place in between what you SAY you’re letting go of and what you SAY you desire. But that thing you desire hasn’t shown up yet. The GAP is also the place where possibilities go to die from causes like, “being responsible,” “being realistic,” and “being practical.” Been there. Done that. And it’s friggin’ boring isn’t’ it? Before we get to what to do in the GAP, let’s start with that thing you really desire. If you’ve had something you’ve desired to create for a while now, what is it? What’s really stopping you? For me, I’ve talked about the desire to move for over five years now. FIVE YEARS. I made up a bunch of stories in my head: It’s too hard to qualify for a mortgage on self-employment income. I can’t yet afford the house I really desire. My husband doesn’t want to leave Utah. As long as I travel, I can stay put and be happy. Blah, blah… when I can’t stand to hear myself...Six Coaching Myths + 15 things I Know for Sure
(You can listen to this below too) I’ve been in business for almost ten years and I’ve seen a lot and learned a lot in this industry. The first time I seriously considered getting out of the coaching biz was in 2012 when I burned my business down. (That’s another story for another day.) I was disheartened by what I was seeing as the “norm,” particularly in the live event space. It was a wake-up call for me to assess what I wanted to create in my business, with my clients, and in the world. These were just some of the questions I had from the models I saw: Was there another way to make money that wasn’t based on ‘overcoming objections’ and convincing people to buy stuff? Could people make 5- and 6-figure paydays from their live events without the fear-based selling? Could I create a leveraged business model that still had a high-touch component with my clients? Was the only way to grow my business to get a fancy brick and mortar office and hire full-time staff? Did I have to post the lifestyle shots on social media that showed everyone how great my life was? After considering these questions and finding a path that resonated much better with me, I’ve come a long way and I’ve seen a lot in this industry. There are a few coaching myths that I just don’t buy into. I’d love to hear your thoughts below on this post or in my Facebook group. Myth #1: Charge what you’re worth. You are an infinite being, how can you possibly charge what...
Business Alchemy 24: Tools to Change Hopelessness into Possibility
[Sunday Love Letter – When the World Feels Hopeless and I Feel Helpless] You can listen to the audio below. You can download the clearing loops I use in this + some extras here: https://soundcloud.com/angella-johnson-2/clearing-loop-for-hopelessness-into-possibility. Yesterday, a friend of mine posted about her feeling about the racism that is staring us in the face in the white supremacist rally in Virginia in the US. I have not been able to get this off my mind, but most importantly, how I responded to her post. I told her that I didn’t know the words to say. I recently experienced a very challenging thing personally – something I’m sure I’ll talk about in the future, just not right now. One of the hardest things during this deep time of healing was the people who didn’t say anything. They didn’t acknowledge my pain. They stayed silent. The reasons I heard were things like: “I don’t know what to say and what if I say the wrong thing?” “You’re strong Angella, you’ll be fine.” “What is there to say, this happens all of the time, you’ll be okay.” But the silence was the thing that hurt the most. I did this same thing to my friend. I told myself that I didn’t know what to say. But the truth is, I did know what to say, I was just too scared to say it. One of my BIGGEST pet peeves in relationships is if you don’t speak up, it’s not a friendship or relationship that I’ll invest my time in. Yet in the face of the racism that is so blatant in this country...
Is this the change I’ve been asking for?
Have you had the moment when your glorious business or marketing plan either bores you to tears or is just doesn’t work? The thing that you are trying to get to work is what you’ve done before in your business. You KNOW how to do this… yet, something is off. Perhaps it’s trying to follow one of the proven formulas by the experts and it just falls flat. Or you just can’t muster up the focus and motivation to follow through with it. Either way, it’s frustrating right? Especially when you need to make some money, honey! I’ve been in a space similar to this since March. Something has just been ever-so-slightly “off” and I couldn’t put my finger on it. I kept asking what to DO and kept getting the answer of “create more space.” “Let go of anything that doesn’t you utter joy. Stop the DOing and things will show up – but there has to be space for it to show up.” When this type of thing would happen years ago, my coaches at the time would tell me to be “coachable and push through the fear.” (Um, it wasn’t fear, it was a misalignment and you can only FORCE misalignment for so long before it bites you in the ass.) The result when you force it is often dismal profits, disappointment, and usually burned out adrenals to go along with it (for me anyway). NOW, I honor these times as the invitation to pause and take a breath. My favorite question to ask during these times of transitioning my business model is, “Is this the change I’ve been asking for?” When you...
Business Alchemy 13: Conscious Leadership and The Need to Be Right with Guest Carmell Clark
Through the darkness, my soul was calling me to freedom. As Carmell talks about the reinvention of letting go of her business to become an international leadership coach, she discovered along the way the four elements of Emotional Blackmail and the need to be right.
What would change our planet? What will heal and unify the divide that the recent US election has shined the light on?
Carmell gives us her tools of conscious leadership and why more than ever, it’s critical that women step up and support other women.