What kind of Asker are You?

What kind of Asker are You?

Ask and receive. You’ve likely heard this before, right? When I used to hear that, I rejected it. It couldn’t be that easy, right? So I didn’t ask for stuff. I was taught to be grateful for what I had and I could be happy with very little. I saw my parents work really hard and heard a lot of “someday… if/when we get a lot of money…” and we would dream about what we would do IF… Then I learned how to work really hard to create things I desired… I stayed at jobs that I hated. I even worked for a boss who was verbally abusive to everyone around him. His temper tantrums included pounding his fists on the conference room table when he got mad, which was all the time. My thinking was, “But I’m making $60,000 a year and I can’t make that anywhere else.” I worked 60+ hours a week at most of my jobs. I went to the gym five days a week and ate tuna out of the can (super gross) to force my body to change. There was a lot of force involved and I made stuff happen, yet I always felt like I was behind – I never quite got ahead and it was never enough. In 2014, I declared joy in my life. I didn’t know how I was going to get it but I kept “putting it out to the universe” to show me something different. I had questions like this go through my head hundreds of times, “What if I learned abundance through abundance?” “Can I learn...
The GAP: where dreams die or come alive (part 2)

The GAP: where dreams die or come alive (part 2)

There is a theme happening right now… it’s kinda like when you want to buy a red car and then you notice that EVERYONE has a red car… The theme is people are stepping into the GAP. (Not the clothing store as my funny and smart @$$ friend Heidi says.) The GAP is the place between letting go of what no longer works and stepping into what is coming – BUT what’s coming hasn’t shown up quite yet. I talk about the gap in part 1 of this article series here because the first step is to get clear on what you desire. “The GAP (can be) the place where possibilities go to die from causes like, ‘being responsible,’ ‘being realistic,’ and ‘being practical.’” The Gap is also the place where infinite possibilities come alive. My friend Lori reminded me of this recently. If you truly desire change, there is no going back to the old life. You can SORT OF go back to the old life but it will likely be more painful. Why? Because you know what you desire and you consciously told yourself you couldn’t have it. I’m seeing more and more people consciously enter into the GAP without having the universe smack them around before they’ll finally listen to their deepest desires. (We don’t need to hit rock bottom or have a total breakdown to wake up to a new possibility.) How we go into the GAP doesn’t necessarily matter (in my opinion). It’s what we do after we enter that matters. The old me: I would desire something to be different. I would let...
Talking yourself into loving it

Talking yourself into loving it

I was talking myself into loving it… “It’s better than what I have now.” “I can make it work.” “I really love these parts of it…” This was my conversation 48 hours ago as my husband and I were making a decision about making an offer on a house we saw. Then came the, “maybe we’ll just stay where we are. Maybe it’s better to just do some upgrades to this house…” Today this sign went up in our yard. $hit just got real. It’s happening. We’re moving. And we don’t have a place to go… yet. Welcome to “The GAP.” The place in between what you SAY you’re letting go of and what you SAY you desire. But that thing you desire hasn’t shown up yet. The GAP is also the place where possibilities go to die from causes like, “being responsible,” “being realistic,” and “being practical.” Been there. Done that. And it’s friggin’ boring isn’t’ it? Before we get to what to do in the GAP, let’s start with that thing you really desire. If you’ve had something you’ve desired to create for a while now, what is it? What’s really stopping you? For me, I’ve talked about the desire to move for over five years now. FIVE YEARS. I made up a bunch of stories in my head: It’s too hard to qualify for a mortgage on self-employment income. I can’t yet afford the house I really desire. My husband doesn’t want to leave Utah. As long as I travel, I can stay put and be happy. Blah, blah… when I can’t stand to hear myself...

Six Coaching Myths + 15 things I Know for Sure

(You can listen to this below too) I’ve been in business for almost ten years and I’ve seen a lot and learned a lot in this industry. The first time I seriously considered getting out of the coaching biz was in 2012 when I burned my business down. (That’s another story for another day.) I was disheartened by what I was seeing as the “norm,” particularly in the live event space. It was a wake-up call for me to assess what I wanted to create in my business, with my clients, and in the world. These were just some of the questions I had from the models I saw: Was there another way to make money that wasn’t based on ‘overcoming objections’ and convincing people to buy stuff? Could people make 5- and 6-figure paydays from their live events without the fear-based selling? Could I create a leveraged business model that still had a high-touch component with my clients? Was the only way to grow my business to get a fancy brick and mortar office and hire full-time staff? Did I have to post the lifestyle shots on social media that showed everyone how great my life was? After considering these questions and finding a path that resonated much better with me, I’ve come a long way and I’ve seen a lot in this industry. There are a few coaching myths that I just don’t buy into. I’d love to hear your thoughts below on this post or in my Facebook group. Myth #1: Charge what you’re worth. You are an infinite being, how can you possibly charge what...
Episode 24: Tools to Change Hopelessness into Possibility

Episode 24: Tools to Change Hopelessness into Possibility

[Sunday Love Letter – When the World Feels Hopeless and I Feel Helpless] You can listen to the audio below. You can download the clearing loops I use in this + some extras here: https://soundcloud.com/angella-johnson-2/clearing-loop-for-hopelessness-into-possibility. Yesterday, a friend of mine posted about her feeling about the racism that is staring us in the face in the white supremacist rally in Virginia in the US.  I have not been able to get this off my mind, but most importantly, how I responded to her post. I told her that I didn’t know the words to say. I recently experienced a very challenging thing personally – something I’m sure I’ll talk about in the future, just not right now. One of the hardest things during this deep time of healing was the people who didn’t say anything. They didn’t acknowledge my pain. They stayed silent. The reasons I heard were things like: “I don’t know what to say and what if I say the wrong thing?” “You’re strong Angella, you’ll be fine.” “What is there to say, this happens all of the time, you’ll be okay.” But the silence was the thing that hurt the most. I did this same thing to my friend. I told myself that I didn’t know what to say. But the truth is, I did know what to say, I was just too scared to say it. One of my BIGGEST pet peeves in relationships is if you don’t speak up, it’s not a friendship or relationship that I’ll invest my time in. Yet in the face of the racism that is so blatant in this country...
Is this the change I’ve been asking for?

Is this the change I’ve been asking for?

Have you had the moment when your glorious business or marketing plan either bores you to tears or is just doesn’t work? The thing that you are trying to get to work is what you’ve done before in your business. You KNOW how to do this… yet, something is off. Perhaps it’s trying to follow one of the proven formulas by the experts and it just falls flat. Or you just can’t muster up the focus and motivation to follow through with it. Either way, it’s frustrating right? Especially when you need to make some money, honey! I’ve been in a space similar to this since March. Something has just been ever-so-slightly “off” and I couldn’t put my finger on it. I kept asking what to DO and kept getting the answer of “create more space.” “Let go of anything that doesn’t you utter joy. Stop the DOing and things will show up – but there has to be space for it to show up.” When this type of thing would happen years ago, my coaches at the time would tell me to be “coachable and push through the fear.” (Um, it wasn’t fear, it was a misalignment and you can only FORCE misalignment for so long before it bites you in the ass.) The result when you force it is often dismal profits, disappointment, and usually burned out adrenals to go along with it (for me anyway). NOW, I honor these times as the invitation to pause and take a breath. My favorite question to ask during these times of transitioning my business model is, “Is this the change I’ve been asking for?” When you...

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